The moment you decide that YOU are the most important investment you'll ever make

It’s my 3 year anniversary since I quit my previous life, by leaving my job at Google to follow my heart and find my passion for life. Here’s an update for you.

Since I embarked on this new chapter in 2018, I’ve been openly talking about shifting a career path that doesn't make you happy, even if it is what you always thought you wanted, redefining success, getting to know yourself on a deeper level, and opening up to the possibilities that arise when you change the way you think, when you learn to manage your emotions and when you get to understand what drives you to take action towards what matters to you the most.

This has been my personal quest to create my life as I really want it and it continues to be with more and more ease as I go.

Back then, even though the decision to quit my super-cushioned, well-paid and socially praised Google job was one that was empowering and put me on a new level of sovereignty over my life, I was also quite frightened as I was totally clueless about what I would do next. I was also feeling very low in confidence. I had decided to leave everything behind, and to that, I gave a meaning that made life quite hard for me.

Back then I thought that I had taken the wrong path, I had spent so much of my life doing things I wasn't passionate about, I felt very guilty and I also disdained my past due to the pain and suffering I had been through in the process of achieving what I had. I had associated my suffering with my achievements. No wonder I wanted to get away from it all, and never look back.

I also felt very much behind. Often I thought, how could I just start over, from scratch, when everyone around me (on IG..) has been doing what they do for so much longer than me.

Worse than all together, the high achiever inside me, who had achieved so much in my previous life, had to now start from zero, where she was 'a nobody'.

I did many things in these last three years, in desperate pursuit of what's next for me.

I worked on myself, relentlessly. I read all the books on psychology, personal development, spirituality, entrepreneurship, and I delved into 'the alternative' and 'the obscure' - healing modalities, new paradigm cosmology, metaphysics, quantum healing, sound and frequency, yoga, sacred sexuality, feminine temple arts, sacred plant medicine, extreme cold exposure, breathwork...

Some of the experiences I've had over these three years:

- I spent time in India living the ashram life and training as a yogi, practicing and studying 18h days for a whole month

- I spent two weeks in the Arctic north of Sweden in January living in primitive conditions and learning old ways to live with nature in -30 degrees

- I spent two weeks fasting and communing with sacred teacher plants in the Peruvian Amazon as part of the local Shipibo tribal culture

- I spent many weekends immersed in kundalini yoga practices and community around the world

- I studied sound and frequency and its therapeutic uses and got certified as a practitioner

- I spent two weeks living in the forest and learning primitive survival skills in the US as passed down by native cultures

- I studied conscious and embodied communication and trained as a facilitator

- I spent time immersed in sacred sexuality and temple arts teachings, at in-person events, online programs and trainings

Within all this, I also created business and opportunities to pass on what I was learning to others through starting a blog, giving workshops, leading retreats and lately launching an online platform and community for transformational practices at home.

Pheeeww it's been busy! But it also was...not quite enough. Something was missing. I knew there was more, that I hadn't found IT. 

I knew I wanted to work with people, empowerment, and human potential, but this healing world I had been exposed to, I couldn't fully connect to its energy. There was something that made me feel 'different'. I battled with my 'double identity’ for a while. I was immersing myself in all these experiences because I was looking for answers, but I also had this inner sense of 'a winner' inside. I knew I wanted big and great things, and this world was falling short in satisfying both these sides of me.

About a year ago, I decided to do something radical that I hadn't considered before.

I made the biggest and most important investment of my life to date - I hired a coach. I went ALL IN, I paid upfront, and committed myself to weekly meetings for a whole year. I knew I wanted to finally launch my business and that I had enough 'searching'. I basically decided to get serious about creating my life, and not just guess my way around anymore.

The energetic commitment I made by paying this money towards fulfilling my intention to finally get my business off the ground, immediately gave me so much courage and relief, that finally I wasn’t alone. Someone had my back.

As I worked with my coach I realised that all this time since I quit Google I had been seeing myself under dim light. I was actually apologetic about my previous life and career, I didn't own it. I had created beliefs and meanings about it that kept me stuck, and because of this, I had been feeling quite unable to fully show myself, express myself and share my message. I wasn't fully comfortable with who I was, my story, my qualities, and strengths that make me unique and brilliant. 

With my coach’s support, I did a lot of work to change these beliefs, and move forward as the person I really wanted to be. The more I learned to value myself for who I really am and drop all the things I'm not, allowed me to finally go for the direction in my business that for the first time felt true, exciting and fulfilling to me as nothing had before.

Next to this, having weekly accountability and discussing the blocks I encountered on the way of setting up my business meant I kept taking action - maybe the biggest challenge I had up until that point. Within this past year’s coaching journey I managed to get clear about my business, who I want to serve and how. I got to do the right training, according to my vision, not just guessing like before. Finally, I launched my business and within no time at all got my first few clients, because what I created was aligned with what I really wanted. This gave me so much confidence that this path is really for me. 

All the trainings in the world wouldn't have led me to where I am now, no matter how valuable each and every one of them was, giving me perspective, knowledge and incredible experiences I will carry with me forever.

Thinking back, I spent so much money on trainings and traveling for two years after I quit, searching for how to create my business. It would’ve been much faster (and less costly) if I had worked with a coach from the start, so that I know which trainings actually made sense for me to do. I would’ve been more focused, and I would’ve grown faster, meaning I would’ve reached my goal of launching my dream business sooner.

Not to say I regret my journey in any way, but if I was to advise my younger self this is what I would say - get a coach as soon as you can. It’s a real blessing to be able to work with someone who has done what you want to do for yourself. There is an energy transmission going on that you get to receive by being in this person’s field. This means faster transformation.

Do you need a coach?

Not everyone is on the same path. Some of us really want personal, and super tailored support around our particular challenges. We also aim high, and want to reach there, fast!

For someone like me, who had achieved quite a lot of success already, and was looking for a new path, I was really stuck trying on my own to navigate and untangle the complex and conflicting belief systems that had been created over a lifetime. I see now I *really needed* this regular and specific-to-me one-to-one support to uncover what was blocking me so that I could really take the action towards the direction that suited me.

Could I have not done it by myself? Perhaps, though it would've taken me much longer time and energy.

While on this journey, I learned so much about what coaching is, and what is not. Blessed with finding a coach that is the real deal, I got to really understand the power of true coaching.

There are many people who call themselves coaches everywhere, as it is an unregulated field. There are people who call themselves coaches but actually are more like therapists, consultants, mentors, advisors, or even just teachers/instructors of methods and techniques. This is giving the actual work of a coach a vague name, with people not really knowing what true coaching is.

The kind of coach I'm talking about helps you dream the most incredible and aligned vision for your life and business, and set big goals that stretch your comfort zone and make you grow as you pursue them.

The kind of coach I'm talking about is there to challenge the way you think. To illuminate your own blind spots. To help you see for yourself how you are standing in your own way. To help you understand how your mind works so that you can learn to work with it, as opposed to being an unconscious slave to it and staying stuck.

The kind of coach I'm talking about helps you to steer yourself in the right direction by asking you powerful questions that challenge your creative and resourceful thinking.

The kind of coach I'm talking about never tells you what to do, or gives you advice, but rather helps you find the answers within yourself, as this is the best way for everlasting results and transformation.

The kind of coach I'm talking about is your biggest supporter, is there to help you see your own brilliance, by believing in you more than you do, and encouraging you to see yourself in a higher light as you keep taking the right action.

The kind of coach I'm talking about lets you fail! Yes, fail! (while holding your hand) Because only by failing you learn how to go forward, and do it better next time. This is true empowerment.

The coach I'm talking about is there for you, and just you. Every week, for you to discuss whatever is blocking you from taking action towards your goals. You can talk about the past, but the focus is on the future, and where you want to go. Healing happens as you go about creating your life as you want it, not ruminating over the past.

It’s been a real joy and pleasure for me to now be able to offer this super transformational work to others. I have been working with many clients over the last few months that share a similar background to mine: already successful, high-achieving, high-goal setting, and highly committed men and women who are ready to upgrade their life, career or business.

What I find is most often people feel unfulfilled, wanting more from life, even though they’ve achieved a lot of success already. Or even they’ve been silently suffering for a while, either not admitting it to themselves, or like me, guessing their way around trying to solve things on their own. 

Both are very exhausting, and the moment you decide that YOU are the most important investment you'll ever make, this is the moment that your life is actually going to start changing FAST.

I work with people one to one for 3, 6 and 12 months at a time, according to needs and intentions. Send me a message if you are ready to get to the next level, and let's talk.